Finally, my dear hubby completed his study and he had passed his membership in oral surgery royal college of surgeon edinburgh. After all the sacrifices that we had put in... finally his coming back for good and hopefully we can stay together as a family should be and give our full attention to our family especially the kids. And thank you God for making our wish comes true. Congratulations dear. I'm really proud of you... and WELCOME HOME MR SURGEON!
Recently (dah dekat 2 bulan) I noticed Darwisya has a habit. Nail biting! urgh..... I noticed it when she attended her school's sports day somewhere in Jun. At that time she was standing under a tent with her friends while waiting for their turn to play. Luckily I was sitting exactly in front of the tent so that i can see her. Or else until now, I may not know that she has the nail biting habit.
Well talking about nail biting based on my limited knowledge, habit can be from nail biting, thumb sucking, hair twirling etc. and there are many reason why children develop their 'habit'. The commonest is because thay are anxiou, nervous, feel boring but there are children who develop their habit without any reason; it is just they like to do it! And I think Darwisya develop her habit because of anxiety and boring.
Luckily Darwisya's habit is still not so bad to extend that it ruined her nails. And I want her to stop her habit before it gets worse. Some people say, most habits disappear by the time a child reaches school age. But I don't want to wait for another 2 years for her to outgrow the habit. So how to stop it? First I always told her that nail biting is not a good habit, it's unhygienic and it can ruined her nails. Darwisya is very lady-like and she loves beauty so probably she can accept my reasoning :P. Whenever I saw her doing her habit, I will quickly distract her with other things.
Hopefully it works and Darwisya is free from her nail biting habit soon.
As a parent, for sure we will come to the phase whereby our little one started throwing tantrums. And now, my little Damia @ adik @ kak ngah has started showing off her 'talent'. I think it is one of the most 'challenging' , distressing episode in the life cycle of a parent. Nobody will never experience it... I guess. xtaulah kot2 ada 'super-baik' baby yang xde langsung temper tantrums. Sama ada mild tantrum ke severe tantrums, mesti ada jugak.
My daughter will throw tantrums whenever she didn't get what she want. Dulu nangis je.... skarang dah pandai golek2 atas lantai, menjerit2, tendang abis segala apa yg ada depan dia, siap baling2 barang yg ada. Ganas jugak budak ni.... What I normally do? Just let her cry or scream or do what ever she want as long as the surrounding is safe. Meaning that no possible injury can happen to her. And this is what I did with Darwisya when she was small.
Is it normal for a child to develop tantrum? Yes, it is. So parents out there, do not worry too much ok. A tantrum is a normal response as they do not know other ways to express their anger or frustration. And most of them age 1-4.
How do we overcome tantrums? These techniques were taken from a website 1) ignore the tantrums. (This is what I did) And make sure they didn't harm themselves 2) help them dealing with anger and frustration. For a bigger child who could understand probably this will help but of course not for a young child like Damia 3) Pay attention to what triggers the tantrums. It can help us act before their emotions get past the point
Most children will grow out of having temper tantrums. With time, most children learn healthy ways to handle the strong emotions that can lead to temper tantrums. Children who still have tantrums after the age of 4 may need help learning to deal with anger. If tantrums continue or start during the school years, they may be a sign of other issues, such as learning problems or trouble getting along with other children.
Please don't scold them whenever they are throwing tantrums. I admit at times I did scold them but at the end of the day, I regret. I always remind myself not to show off my anger in front of them and always be calm but am just an ordinary human being. Of course I do make mistakes. But I strongly hope that it is not too late for them to learn a good attitude and manners.
For my little darling Damia, it's ok for you to show off your tantrums now. Hopefully you will understand and learn a better way to express your anger or frustration later on. But don't take too long dear coz mama xlarat nak tengok Damia mengamuk macam tu. Love you!
Nothing much different for me in welcoming Ramadhan this year. But this year I want my darling Darwisya to start learning puasa. She is still young, baru 5 tahun tapi rasanya ok kot. My aim is at least dia puasa separuh hari, balik dari sekolah bolehla bukak puasa...:) Nak kejut sahur, rasanya x susah kot sbb dia mmg senang nak bangun. x banyak songeh. Harap anak mama dapat belajar berpuasa dan pengertian puasa sekali untuk tahun ini.
Selamat berpuasa untuk semua. Semoga kita sentiasa mendapat keberkatan dariNya. Amin
I'm still in my confinement period.... Boringnya, x sabar nak habiskan tempoh pantang. Nak kata berpantang, pantang jugaklah tapi not that strict. I do believe some of the do's and dont's after delivery as long as it won't harm myself and of course the baby.
Giving birth is not easy, either normal vaginal delivery or caesarian. Both have an effect on our body physiology. During pregnancy, our body changed a lot.Our body will come back to it's normal body state on it's own. But all the amalan masa berpantang probably will help the recovery process.
All my 3 children were born normal vaginal delivery so I don't have any experience in caesarian. So I could not give any comment about it. Tapi beranak normal mmg ..$%^&##!*& ..... Tuhan saja yg tahu. I didn't take any pain killers during my labor. It's not that I don't want to take an epidural but i'm just unlucky because all my delivery happened after office hour n over the weekend. ( in gov hospital setting, they don't provide epidural at this time) And I think that is why God make woman to bear children not man coz I personally don't think a man can go thru it. I still remember my hubby said after I gave birth to my son " kesian tengok mama beranak tadi..." He accompanied me throughout the process, and I hope he would appreciate all my sacrifices, all the pain that I had gone thru..
Post delivery, there is not much pain but only some discomfort (talking about normal delivery) Bayangkan baby keluar thru the small birth canal, semua sendi2 pinggul jadik longgar. and all the 'pushing' during delivery betul2 buat badan jadi letih. letih bukan mcm lari berkilometer tp lain rasanya. Nak angkat kaki sendiri pun xlarat... sbb tu org beranak kena byk rehat utk recover. During my first 2 delivery, i did'nt wear any traditional bengkung tp kali ni pakai... rupanya mmg best pakai bengkung ni. Kalau ikut lojik, kenapa nk seksa diri pakai bengkung from underbust to mid thigh. nk gi toilet, nk jalan, nk duduk mmg seksa skit. Bengkung actually grip badan yg longgar2 tadi so bila kita nak bergerak xlah rasa lenguh2, rasa berat. Mmg recommended to every mom yg baru lps beranak.
Urut mmg salah satu perkara penting for me selepas beranak... just imagine badan yang letih, lenguh2 diurut.... best giler. Another thing is bertuku.Tuku is a ball-like metal object with a handle. Tapi kalau takde boleh guna batu sungai. After it has been heated, it is wrapped in a cloth and noni leaf, and gently rolled over the abdomen. It is believed to help uterine contraction but I don't think so. I practised bertuku during my confinement because of the comfort. Rasa relaks, selesa lepas bertuku ni. So as long as kita rasa benda tu x memudaratkan, no harm practising right?
Food wise, ada jugak yang pantang. But from medical point of view, xde istilah makanan panas ke sejuk. Semua boleh makan tapi I personally feels ada jugak sesetengah makanan yang kurang elok dimakan oleh orang bersalin coz I have my on personal experience. So it is up to you which one you choose, but the most important thing is a mother needs a balance diet for her own energy and for breastfeeding. So make sure you take a balance diet and drink a lot of water for your own hydration coz we loose a lot of fluid per vaginal n from breastfeeding.Talking about breastfeeding, it really helps in uterine contraction and reduce the risk of postnatal bleeding. Badan pun cepat turun.... I manage to get back to my pre pregnancy weight sebelum habis pantang :)
Apa2pun, the process of getting pregnant, going thru the pregnancy period, giving birth, confinement period and raising a child is not easy. Bukan senang nak jadi seorang ibu.... To all husband outside there, please appreciate your mother and of course your wife for all of their sacrifices. And if you have a chance to accompany your wife throughout the delivery process, please do. Coz you won't understand until you experience and see it with your own eyes. Tapi jangan pulak suami collapse dlm delivery room nanti... ;P
Having a new child is like signing a contract with God, to raise them as a good muslim or muslimah. And hope I can do the best that I could to raise my kids.
I have not been blogging for quite a long time.... it is not that i don't have any stories to tell but I am just too tired of arranging things lately. plus malas, plus internet broadband yg mmg lemb*p.... i can't even upload any post! teruk kan!
Yes.... I am very very very very very tired. Now everything seems to be settling, still not 100% yet. A lot of new things happened since we move back to KL, Darwisya dah sekolah, renovation rumah completed, my transfer to Selangor approved 1st july and maid pun dah sampai. Alhamdulillah.... walaupun byk dugaan tapi settle jugak semuanya.
Now waiting for my third baby to come out.... Currently am @ 36weeks, a month to my due date. ultrasound scan showed that am having a baby boy! Alhamdulillah, hopefully it is not wrong. now he is kicking my tummy, maybe he is telling me "yes mummy, i am a boy..." :)
Darwisya really enjoy watching Hi-5 either in nickelodeon channel or in youtube. She learn a lot of english vocabulary here. One of her favorite segment was with kathleen (one of the member of the old Hi-5 team) She had been asking me to make a volcano just like kathleen did in the program. As i was cleaning and sorting things out in the kitchen, I gathered all the used cooking ingredients to make a volcano with her. After all, we will be moving back to KL so might as well I just finished the ingredients by making the volcano rather than throwing it away.
To make the volcano, all we need are bicarb soda, vinegar, red coloring and for the volcano, i just put a small round cup on top of 'lesung batu' then cover it with aluminium foil. creative huh?! hehehe
So these are the things that we need, check out the top of the volcano! It's actually one of Darwisya's cooking pot toy. The Volcano did not look like a real volcano though... :P
Ready? Here we go....
First, fill up the top container with bicarb soda
Then, pour in some colored vinegar slowly and see the bubbles coming out!
Add some more bicarb soda for more bubbles! wow...!
While pouring the colored vinegar, Darwisya was singing the song that Kathleen sang during her show. I recorded it but unfortunately I can't upload the complete file and only half of it been uploaded and saved... so sad. sorry guys :( (You can checked in you tube, Kathleen's Volcano video)
My darling mia is having problem with her poo poo.... she likes to hold whenever she feels like it. Ended up her stool became hard. This constipation problem had been going on for the past 3-4 months, on and off. Aiyoo... at times i feel like am a 'no good' mom coz i can't over come this problem. Really i feel like i'm a failure.... Her sister did not have any problem with her bowel habit when she was small. Yup, not every kid is the same. You might have no problem with your kids now but probably you can with your subsequent one.
Probably before this she had a bad poo poo experience now making her feels that poo poo is very unpleasant, very painful, very.... whatever description it is. That makes the habit of holding it. She will cry and scream her throat out whenever she has bowel motion. She will make all sort of actions to hold it; stiffen her legs, sitting in knee-chest position etc. It's like a vicious cycle, even if her stool is soft but when she holds it and refuse to poo poo, the stool will later became hard and more difficult and painful to come out.
Diet? She had no problem with her diet. basically she eats what we eat provided the foods are good for her. She eats vegetables(green leafy vege), she likes fruits especially apples and grapes, she likes raisin very much she can even finish a small box of raisin in one sitting, she likes cereals and oats, she drinks juices (oranges or apple) about 20z per day, she likes nuts (cashew, almond, peanut), she still on breastfeeding but still the problem is there. Kid who is on breast milk rarely constipate because breast milk is easily to digest and does not contain complex particle unlike cow's milk. Banana does not help in treating constipation. (many people get this wrong!). Cheese n milk products especially from cows milk may worsen the problem. Soy milk is good but Mia doesn't like it. Her fluid intake is good and adequate based on her urine output n color. So i guess diet wise, she is ok.
You know why this problem is still there? Because it is her HABIT! and it is really difficult to break it! Now she is on daily medicine (stool softener). It is a magnesium preparation osmotic laxatives that can help to draw fluid into the bowel and soften the stool. It is the safest among other type of laxatives and the most important thing is it does not absorb into the body/bloodstream. Now I need to make sure she pass motion every day with normal soft stool, then slowly wean off the medicine once she feels comfortable with her poo poo. Of course it will take 2-3 months to break the cycle and hope everything would be fine n smooth.
My Damia is different... totally different from her sister. It is really a big challenge for me taking care of her myself. Probably God makes it more challenging just to test me. of course I will try my very best to overcome it but i need some times, i need supports and i do not want criticism. People easily can judge, easily say i should do this, do that, no need this, no need that. They simply don't know how much much effort i had put in. So please keep your words/critics. But sometimes it does not need for you to say it out loud but people can understand and can read your mind by the way you ask or act. Anyway, thanks to all who had give some advice. Really appreciate it! oh dear... I'm a bit over emotional this time... heheh, sorry guys! I'm actually quite stressed up lately, a lot of things to think of.... don't know whether i can face it.
Guess it is very much true... God is testing me :) "Dear God, please give me some patience n strength... amin"
Disneyland Hong Kong... a must go place when you visit hong kong. here are some pics taken during our outing day to the theme park. It was actually our 2nd visit in 1 and a half years of life in Hong Kong. Nothing much to elaborate, let the pics tell everything.... enjoy!
Tengah entertain damia dengan poster mickey mouse sambil tunggu papa amik gambar. Ada pulak photogapher sesat disebelah trying to capture the kids photo.... heheh... kena mintak royalti nih
Sampai je terus ada parade, so layan parade dulu.... mickey mouse and friends. Damia paling suka parade ni coz she got to see all the characters. Darwisya hanya minat the princesses jek. Tapi xdpt nak amik gambar princesses sb diaorg pandang sebelah lain
cute tengok the 7 dwarfs ni menari.... walaupun pada size diaorg bukanlah 'dwarf' Our little family in front of the sleeping beauty castle... ini mmg port wajib amik gambar kalau dtg disneyland :)
Main Street USA.... jauh di hujung sana ialah the castle. Kiri kanan kedai2 souvenir n kedai makan
Darwisya kena nyanyi lagu 'jingle bells' utk dapat sticker princess.... muka dia dah lain macam. harap2 lepas ni, kakak lebih berani sikit bila masuk school ok!
Salah satu show yg ada, this one is a 3D show. Show nya sama je dgn yg last time kitaorg pergi.... boring! ingatkan time Christmas diaorg tukar la show lain ini x jugak. sempat posing sementara tunggu turn tgk show. ready with the 3D glasses.... damia belum masuk dah tertido... penat sgt main
This was at adventure land... bot ride keliling tasik. layan jugaklah.
Darwsisya muka cuak naik boat... she still remember the last time kitaorg naik boat. She cried that time sb terkejut tgk binatang2 yg ada. But this time dia x nangis... Damia jugak yg cool. tepuk tangan n babai semua binatang yg ada.
Now darwisya punya time... naik rides. The flying Dumbo
Merry go round
Senja di The Small World... kinda like this pic. xtau nape...
Inside the small world... a boat ride sambil tgk patung2 kecik ni menari2.
Christmas eve in Disneyland... ramai giler manusia sampai x boleh nak gerak. papa agak frust sb xdapat nak amik gambar castle n fireworks. penat je angkut tripod yg berat tu... This was the first time we stayed till night. Overall the kids enjoy themselves, mama and papa penat, duit habis bayar tiket and beli food yg mahal.... tapi as long as the kids are happy, then mama n papa pun happy. Maybe lepas ni dah x dtg lagi sini. Bye!
Last weekend we brought the kids to an indoor play area called Playtown in Westwood Plaza, Belcher's Road. Very much better than 'Jumping Gym'. They charged HKD 100 per kid/per entry with free one accompanying adult. Tapi kalau pegi 'happy hour' dapat HKD 50 je... from 7pm till 9pm. So of course la kitaorg opt for 'happy hour'... jimat duit! the place was really nice, comfortable for the kids and parents. Both my little girls really enjoy playing there
susah giler nak dapat main kereta ni. ramai sgt budak2 plus at the same time somebody was having a birthday party there
kakak kena tolak adik sebab adik xpandai tolak dgn kaki sendiri
damia enjoy playing at her play area... specially for kids under 3
game favorite darwisya n papa... tembak2. mula2 kena kutip bola dulu
kemudian masuk bola dlm senapang tu n tembak!!!!!
Damia berenang dlm ball pool.
Panjat atas untuk naik slide. dekat sini nak panjat, panjat la sesuka hati damia. kat rumah jangan nak panjat2 sangat
Again, at Damia's play area. ada banyak toys for the kids to play. All still functioning... bukan yang dah rosak.
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