And the tantrums begin.......

As a parent, for sure we will come to the phase whereby our little one started throwing tantrums. And now, my little Damia @ adik @ kak ngah has started showing off her 'talent'. I think it is one of the most 'challenging' , distressing episode in the life cycle of a parent. Nobody will never experience it... I guess. xtaulah kot2 ada 'super-baik' baby yang xde langsung temper tantrums. Sama ada mild tantrum ke severe tantrums, mesti ada jugak.

My daughter will throw tantrums whenever she didn't get what she want. Dulu nangis je.... skarang dah pandai golek2 atas lantai, menjerit2, tendang abis segala apa yg ada depan dia, siap baling2 barang yg ada. Ganas jugak budak ni.... What I normally do? Just let her cry or scream or do what ever she want as long as the surrounding is safe. Meaning that no possible injury can happen to her. And this is what I did with Darwisya when she was small.

Is it normal for a child to develop tantrum? Yes, it is. So parents out there, do not worry too much ok. A tantrum is a normal response as they do not know other ways to express their anger or frustration. And most of them age 1-4.

How do we overcome tantrums? These techniques were taken from a website
1) ignore the tantrums. (This is what I did) And make sure they didn't harm themselves
2) help them dealing with anger and frustration. For a bigger child who could understand probably this will help but of course not for a young child like Damia
3) Pay attention to what triggers the tantrums. It can help us act before their emotions get past the point

Most children will grow out of having temper tantrums. With time, most children learn healthy ways to handle the strong emotions that can lead to temper tantrums. Children who still have tantrums after the age of 4 may need help learning to deal with anger. If tantrums continue or start during the school years, they may be a sign of other issues, such as learning problems or trouble getting along with other children.

Please don't scold them whenever they are throwing tantrums. I admit at times I did scold them but at the end of the day, I regret. I always remind myself not to show off my anger in front of them and always be calm but am just an ordinary human being. Of course I do make mistakes. But I strongly hope that it is not too late for them to learn a good attitude and manners.

For my little darling Damia, it's ok for you to show off your tantrums now. Hopefully you will understand and learn a better way to express your anger or frustration later on. But don't take too long dear coz mama xlarat nak tengok Damia mengamuk macam tu. Love you!