poo poo...

My darling mia is having problem with her poo poo.... she likes to hold whenever she feels like it. Ended up her stool became hard. This constipation problem had been going on for the past 3-4 months, on and off. Aiyoo... at times i feel like am a 'no good' mom coz i can't over come this problem. Really i feel like i'm a failure.... Her sister did not have any problem with her bowel habit when she was small. Yup, not every kid is the same. You might have no problem with your kids now but probably you can with your subsequent one.

Probably before this she had a bad poo poo experience now making her feels that poo poo is very unpleasant, very painful, very.... whatever description it is. That makes the habit of holding it. She will cry and scream her throat out whenever she has bowel motion. She will make all sort of actions to hold it; stiffen her legs, sitting in knee-chest position etc. It's like a vicious cycle, even if her stool is soft but when she holds it and refuse to poo poo, the stool will later became hard and more difficult and painful to come out.

Diet? She had no problem with her diet. basically she eats what we eat provided the foods are good for her. She eats vegetables(green leafy vege), she likes fruits especially apples and grapes, she likes raisin very much she can even finish a small box of raisin in one sitting, she likes cereals and oats, she drinks juices (oranges or apple) about 20z per day, she likes nuts (cashew, almond, peanut), she still on breastfeeding but still the problem is there. Kid who is on breast milk rarely constipate because breast milk is easily to digest and does not contain complex particle unlike cow's milk. Banana does not help in treating constipation. (many people get this wrong!). Cheese n milk products especially from cows milk may worsen the problem. Soy milk is good but Mia doesn't like it. Her fluid intake is good and adequate based on her urine output n color. So i guess diet wise, she is ok.

You know why this problem is still there? Because it is her HABIT! and it is really difficult to break it! Now she is on daily medicine (stool softener). It is a magnesium preparation osmotic laxatives that can help to draw fluid into the bowel and soften the stool. It is the safest among other type of laxatives and the most important thing is it does not absorb into the body/bloodstream. Now I need to make sure she pass motion every day with normal soft stool, then slowly wean off the medicine once she feels comfortable with her poo poo. Of course it will take 2-3 months to break the cycle and hope everything would be fine n smooth.

My Damia is different... totally different from her sister. It is really a big challenge for me taking care of her myself. Probably God makes it more challenging just to test me. of course I will try my very best to overcome it but i need some times, i need supports and i do not want criticism. People easily can judge, easily say i should do this, do that, no need this, no need that. They simply don't know how much much effort i had put in. So please keep your words/critics. But sometimes it does not need for you to say it out loud but people can understand and can read your mind by the way you ask or act. Anyway, thanks to all who had give some advice. Really appreciate it! oh dear... I'm a bit over emotional this time... heheh, sorry guys! I'm actually quite stressed up lately, a lot of things to think of.... don't know whether i can face it.

Guess it is very much true... God is testing me :)
"Dear God, please give me some patience n strength... amin"