Recently (dah dekat 2 bulan) I noticed Darwisya has a habit. Nail biting! urgh..... I noticed it when she attended her school's sports day somewhere in Jun. At that time she was standing under a tent with her friends while waiting for their turn to play. Luckily I was sitting exactly in front of the tent so that i can see her. Or else until now, I may not know that she has the nail biting habit.
Well talking about nail biting based on my limited knowledge, habit can be from nail biting, thumb sucking, hair twirling etc. and there are many reason why children develop their 'habit'. The commonest is because thay are anxiou, nervous, feel boring but there are children who develop their habit without any reason; it is just they like to do it! And I think Darwisya develop her habit because of anxiety and boring.
Luckily Darwisya's habit is still not so bad to extend that it ruined her nails. And I want her to stop her habit before it gets worse. Some people say, most habits disappear by the time a child reaches school age. But I don't want to wait for another 2 years for her to outgrow the habit. So how to stop it? First I always told her that nail biting is not a good habit, it's unhygienic and it can ruined her nails. Darwisya is very lady-like and she loves beauty so probably she can accept my reasoning :P. Whenever I saw her doing her habit, I will quickly distract her with other things.
Hopefully it works and Darwisya is free from her nail biting habit soon.
As a parent, for sure we will come to the phase whereby our little one started throwing tantrums. And now, my little Damia @ adik @ kak ngah has started showing off her 'talent'. I think it is one of the most 'challenging' , distressing episode in the life cycle of a parent. Nobody will never experience it... I guess. xtaulah kot2 ada 'super-baik' baby yang xde langsung temper tantrums. Sama ada mild tantrum ke severe tantrums, mesti ada jugak.
My daughter will throw tantrums whenever she didn't get what she want. Dulu nangis je.... skarang dah pandai golek2 atas lantai, menjerit2, tendang abis segala apa yg ada depan dia, siap baling2 barang yg ada. Ganas jugak budak ni.... What I normally do? Just let her cry or scream or do what ever she want as long as the surrounding is safe. Meaning that no possible injury can happen to her. And this is what I did with Darwisya when she was small.
Is it normal for a child to develop tantrum? Yes, it is. So parents out there, do not worry too much ok. A tantrum is a normal response as they do not know other ways to express their anger or frustration. And most of them age 1-4.
How do we overcome tantrums? These techniques were taken from a website 1) ignore the tantrums. (This is what I did) And make sure they didn't harm themselves 2) help them dealing with anger and frustration. For a bigger child who could understand probably this will help but of course not for a young child like Damia 3) Pay attention to what triggers the tantrums. It can help us act before their emotions get past the point
Most children will grow out of having temper tantrums. With time, most children learn healthy ways to handle the strong emotions that can lead to temper tantrums. Children who still have tantrums after the age of 4 may need help learning to deal with anger. If tantrums continue or start during the school years, they may be a sign of other issues, such as learning problems or trouble getting along with other children.
Please don't scold them whenever they are throwing tantrums. I admit at times I did scold them but at the end of the day, I regret. I always remind myself not to show off my anger in front of them and always be calm but am just an ordinary human being. Of course I do make mistakes. But I strongly hope that it is not too late for them to learn a good attitude and manners.
For my little darling Damia, it's ok for you to show off your tantrums now. Hopefully you will understand and learn a better way to express your anger or frustration later on. But don't take too long dear coz mama xlarat nak tengok Damia mengamuk macam tu. Love you!
Nothing much different for me in welcoming Ramadhan this year. But this year I want my darling Darwisya to start learning puasa. She is still young, baru 5 tahun tapi rasanya ok kot. My aim is at least dia puasa separuh hari, balik dari sekolah bolehla bukak puasa...:) Nak kejut sahur, rasanya x susah kot sbb dia mmg senang nak bangun. x banyak songeh. Harap anak mama dapat belajar berpuasa dan pengertian puasa sekali untuk tahun ini.
Selamat berpuasa untuk semua. Semoga kita sentiasa mendapat keberkatan dariNya. Amin
I'm still in my confinement period.... Boringnya, x sabar nak habiskan tempoh pantang. Nak kata berpantang, pantang jugaklah tapi not that strict. I do believe some of the do's and dont's after delivery as long as it won't harm myself and of course the baby.
Giving birth is not easy, either normal vaginal delivery or caesarian. Both have an effect on our body physiology. During pregnancy, our body changed a lot.Our body will come back to it's normal body state on it's own. But all the amalan masa berpantang probably will help the recovery process.
All my 3 children were born normal vaginal delivery so I don't have any experience in caesarian. So I could not give any comment about it. Tapi beranak normal mmg ..$%^&##!*& ..... Tuhan saja yg tahu. I didn't take any pain killers during my labor. It's not that I don't want to take an epidural but i'm just unlucky because all my delivery happened after office hour n over the weekend. ( in gov hospital setting, they don't provide epidural at this time) And I think that is why God make woman to bear children not man coz I personally don't think a man can go thru it. I still remember my hubby said after I gave birth to my son " kesian tengok mama beranak tadi..." He accompanied me throughout the process, and I hope he would appreciate all my sacrifices, all the pain that I had gone thru..
Post delivery, there is not much pain but only some discomfort (talking about normal delivery) Bayangkan baby keluar thru the small birth canal, semua sendi2 pinggul jadik longgar. and all the 'pushing' during delivery betul2 buat badan jadi letih. letih bukan mcm lari berkilometer tp lain rasanya. Nak angkat kaki sendiri pun xlarat... sbb tu org beranak kena byk rehat utk recover. During my first 2 delivery, i did'nt wear any traditional bengkung tp kali ni pakai... rupanya mmg best pakai bengkung ni. Kalau ikut lojik, kenapa nk seksa diri pakai bengkung from underbust to mid thigh. nk gi toilet, nk jalan, nk duduk mmg seksa skit. Bengkung actually grip badan yg longgar2 tadi so bila kita nak bergerak xlah rasa lenguh2, rasa berat. Mmg recommended to every mom yg baru lps beranak.
Urut mmg salah satu perkara penting for me selepas beranak... just imagine badan yang letih, lenguh2 diurut.... best giler. Another thing is bertuku.Tuku is a ball-like metal object with a handle. Tapi kalau takde boleh guna batu sungai. After it has been heated, it is wrapped in a cloth and noni leaf, and gently rolled over the abdomen. It is believed to help uterine contraction but I don't think so. I practised bertuku during my confinement because of the comfort. Rasa relaks, selesa lepas bertuku ni. So as long as kita rasa benda tu x memudaratkan, no harm practising right?
Food wise, ada jugak yang pantang. But from medical point of view, xde istilah makanan panas ke sejuk. Semua boleh makan tapi I personally feels ada jugak sesetengah makanan yang kurang elok dimakan oleh orang bersalin coz I have my on personal experience. So it is up to you which one you choose, but the most important thing is a mother needs a balance diet for her own energy and for breastfeeding. So make sure you take a balance diet and drink a lot of water for your own hydration coz we loose a lot of fluid per vaginal n from breastfeeding.Talking about breastfeeding, it really helps in uterine contraction and reduce the risk of postnatal bleeding. Badan pun cepat turun.... I manage to get back to my pre pregnancy weight sebelum habis pantang :)
Apa2pun, the process of getting pregnant, going thru the pregnancy period, giving birth, confinement period and raising a child is not easy. Bukan senang nak jadi seorang ibu.... To all husband outside there, please appreciate your mother and of course your wife for all of their sacrifices. And if you have a chance to accompany your wife throughout the delivery process, please do. Coz you won't understand until you experience and see it with your own eyes. Tapi jangan pulak suami collapse dlm delivery room nanti... ;P
Having a new child is like signing a contract with God, to raise them as a good muslim or muslimah. And hope I can do the best that I could to raise my kids.
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