Darwisya's reward chart

As a parent i wonder what is the best way to teach our children good manners. Of course parents represent the ideal model to their children but sometimes it is quite difficult to make them understand certain values. I tried to 'google' to find it out; a lot of ideas, advices i got.

I came across this book at MPH Alamanda Putrajaya last raya title "children book of manners". One thing that caught my attention is that this book includes a reward chart and stickers. I had the idea of making a reward chart on my own before but i dont know how to start it. So without any question i bought this book straight away :) The content is simple and understandable. Darwisya really enjoy the book and every day i need to tell her the story.


This is the book. RM 24.90


I started using this book about a month ago. My daughter was very excited to see the reward chart with stickers to put on. So we make a deal (me n darwisya). She must behave well and must follow all the values written on the chart. At the end of the week, we will count the stars that she gets and give the reward accordingly

The rewards are all the things that she likes. She likes ice cream, make muffin, going to the park, buy new books. So these are the four rewards... This is how the chart looks like



The reward chart


After about 3 weeks of implementing this reward chart, I think it is quite useful. But of course it will take sometimes for the children to adjust with it (to understand what the chart is all about) Darwisya just couldn't wait to get her reward every week. She will ask, "mama, kakak dah boleh buat muffin? dah boleh beli book?" I could see some improvement in the way she behave and how she play/interact with her little sister. If I were to put this into percentage, I would give 70-80%.

So the pics below is about her getting her reward... After 3 weeks, she was rewarded 3times; to the park twice and the latest reward is make muffin! Hmmm....at last! She had been asking me everyday when she can make muffin! Darwisya really likes cooking. I just prepare the ingredients and she mix everything herself... with a little help from her mummy :)






yummy muffin ready to eat



End of story, it is up to us how we want to teach our children. No manual for it. Just do whatever we think is good for them. I like to read about parenting because it can help me improve myself. I'm no perfect mom. Still a lot of things to be learn. As I was searching thru the internet, I came across this tip from www.positiveparenting.com:

Trust your parental intuition! So often we place our trust in books, friends, family, and others in positions of authority. For today, each time you are in a discipline situation with your child, take a deep breath, allow an idea to come to you and go for it! Trust that YOU are the best expert regarding your child.

Happy parenting! see ya

Our fun time

Remember i promised to put up pics of my daughter's art works? here are few... many more work done but only few pics taken. i suggest u guys do take pics of ur children art works... so that we can cherish those happy, fun, exciting time plus your children can see it back when they grow up! Bet they will be thankful to you :)


This is her first art work. A crown made from Koko krunch box!


This is her work place... notice the drawings on the wall? She painted it herself but of course mummy did the drawings :) I think the idea of having her own table is a good motivation for her to do her works/read books/do anything


Sticker time. We bought the background papers together with the stickers for her. actually can make a storyline using the stickers but of course, nobody can understand her story. I think she just stuck it where ever she want. But never mind, at least she got a space to express her creativity



A butterfly. Check out the wings. It's actually her hand prints!


Try and do some art work with your children. it's fun! We did many more... building small box house, flower origami, paper dolls and of course cards. ask her father, he had received a lot of surprise cards from her. You can surf the internet to find out more activities for you n your kids and some of it are free. Or maybe you can just squeeze out those creativity in you to create a fun and exciting activities with them. Good luck! see ya!

From a career woman to a housewife..

Nope... am not officially resigned from my work. Just taking a long unpaid leave to follow my hubby abroad. Having 2 kids really a challenge. Could not imagine how those people with many more kids survive n handle theirs. At first i thought housewife is easy but IT IS NOT. You will be the first person to wake up and the last person to sleep. Make sure everything in order, from the time my lil girls wake up till night time. I do feel stressed up in the beginning coz i just feel so tired handling everything but as time goes by i slowly can cope with it. But still sometimes i just feel like i need time for myself without the kids... just do anything, or go anywhere just me alone.
Being a housewife is not easy, it's tough, tiring, challenging.... Taking care of ur own kids make people around you have some sort of expectation. What i mean is when our child does not behave well infront of others, of course they would say 'the mother doesn't teach the child well'.

My eldest daughter is 4, not attending any pre-school yet as it is so expensive here (hong kong) So i decided to teach my daughter on my own... wow, sounds great n interesting right? But here comes another challenge. It's very hard to get their attention and they will give all sorts of excuses whenever they are lazy. However am proud of my daughter, even though at times she is just simple lazy to learn, at least by now she is able to recognize and write all the alphabets from A-Z, counts up to 20 and write her own name. Guess more than enough for her age, right? Now I just concentrate more on developing her fine motor skills like holding pencil correctly, holding scissors and try cutting papers, holding a paint brush and try painting..

End of the story, I just hope all of us realize that housewife is not an easy job. Please show some respect, appreciation and support towards them. Maybe next time i can share with u guys some of my daughter art works and few websites that might be helpful for you to teach and create activities with ur children. see ya!

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim

assalamualaikum

This is the first entry for my blog. and today is my first day becoming a 'blogger'. To be honest, i really don't know much about blogs and at first i also don't understand why people like to have their own blog. So why not i give it a try... maybe it's fun :) and hopefully my decision to create my own blog would not only benefits me but also the others. probably by sharing what we have; knowledge, experience etc. Hope i will not stop blogging.. Insya Allah

See ya!