Darwisya's work

This is one of her latest art work. Dah lama buat tapi lupa nak upload. Since we will be moving back to KL early next year, rasa dah malas nak buat aktiviti2 lagi. Teruk betul mama ni! hehe... She made this herself... dari lukis, color, koyak colored paper and tampal. Kalau nak ikutkan separuh siap dia dah merengek2 cakap malas lah, kakak penat lah tapi mama berjaya jugak pujuk kakak buat sampai habis. And as usual, she dedicate this picture to her beloved papa. Agaknya bila la mama nak dapat pulak eh???

From breastfeeding to bottle feeding

Now I'm trying hard to change (breastfeed to bottle feed). Why? Because I'll be back to work soon. I don't have any problem with my eldest daughter as she was breastfed for only 2 months and she refused it once I start working. But Mia is different... she never use bottle before so it is very difficult to make her use it. Got few tips from my friends on how to change to bottle but so far none is successful yet. Mia will throw tantrum whenever she doesn't get it. I tried to ignore the tantrum episode but she will keep on screaming no matter how long would it takes. I had once let her cried for nearly an hour but then i give in. I know I should never give in easily when it comes to this situation but I just can't stand the screaming and crying.

So what I'm doing now is trying to reduce the frequency of feeding during the day. Whenever she comes near to me for breast feeding quickly I will distract her by taking her to the kitchen and get something to snack... usually i give her some fruits. Luckily she likes fruits especially apple and grapes. Night time, I try to sleep separately from her so that she would not 'smell' my presence. I have been trying this for a week but so far not much improvement seen. Arghh... what else should I do?

If only Mia can read and understand..
My darling Mia, mama have to go to work soon and you must start using the bottle now. I will not be at home to feed you as frequent as you want or as long as you wish. You will be staying with nenek at home so please darling mia, start using the bottle, please behave when mama is away and no more tantrums.... I promise to feed you when I'm home.

Darwisya's reward chart

As a parent i wonder what is the best way to teach our children good manners. Of course parents represent the ideal model to their children but sometimes it is quite difficult to make them understand certain values. I tried to 'google' to find it out; a lot of ideas, advices i got.

I came across this book at MPH Alamanda Putrajaya last raya title "children book of manners". One thing that caught my attention is that this book includes a reward chart and stickers. I had the idea of making a reward chart on my own before but i dont know how to start it. So without any question i bought this book straight away :) The content is simple and understandable. Darwisya really enjoy the book and every day i need to tell her the story.


This is the book. RM 24.90


I started using this book about a month ago. My daughter was very excited to see the reward chart with stickers to put on. So we make a deal (me n darwisya). She must behave well and must follow all the values written on the chart. At the end of the week, we will count the stars that she gets and give the reward accordingly

The rewards are all the things that she likes. She likes ice cream, make muffin, going to the park, buy new books. So these are the four rewards... This is how the chart looks like



The reward chart


After about 3 weeks of implementing this reward chart, I think it is quite useful. But of course it will take sometimes for the children to adjust with it (to understand what the chart is all about) Darwisya just couldn't wait to get her reward every week. She will ask, "mama, kakak dah boleh buat muffin? dah boleh beli book?" I could see some improvement in the way she behave and how she play/interact with her little sister. If I were to put this into percentage, I would give 70-80%.

So the pics below is about her getting her reward... After 3 weeks, she was rewarded 3times; to the park twice and the latest reward is make muffin! Hmmm....at last! She had been asking me everyday when she can make muffin! Darwisya really likes cooking. I just prepare the ingredients and she mix everything herself... with a little help from her mummy :)






yummy muffin ready to eat



End of story, it is up to us how we want to teach our children. No manual for it. Just do whatever we think is good for them. I like to read about parenting because it can help me improve myself. I'm no perfect mom. Still a lot of things to be learn. As I was searching thru the internet, I came across this tip from www.positiveparenting.com:

Trust your parental intuition! So often we place our trust in books, friends, family, and others in positions of authority. For today, each time you are in a discipline situation with your child, take a deep breath, allow an idea to come to you and go for it! Trust that YOU are the best expert regarding your child.

Happy parenting! see ya